When something occurs in our life that shakes us to the core and forms those tight knots in our stomach, it is important that we do things that can help take our minds off of whatever is causing us stress. Some examples include:
- Listening to music
- Going for a walk
- Hanging with a pet
- Watching TV
- Going on Instagram/Tik Tok/Snapchat/Facebook/Youtube
- Reading a book
- Taking a bath
- Retail Therapy/Online Shopping (sorry mom!)
- Exercise (my favorite)
- FaceTiming a friend
- Going out to eat with a friend
Whatever it is that you like to do, do it. Some of you are like “duh,” but when we partake in actions that make us happy, we are essentially taking away some of the discomforts.
Example: The other day was really rough for me. I did not do as well on a math test as I thought I did, and I burst into tears. I made silly mistakes, therefore I was really mad at myself because math is one of my best subjects and I knew what I was doing. As I was talking to my therapist, I realized that I am also angry at what my life has become and all that I am forced to go through. It is not fair. I should not have to grow up without my father. I should not have to go to a holiday service and be the only kid, aside from my sister, who lost a parent. I would never wish my pain on anyone, but it also is not easy to walk the path that so many people are forced to walk along. After crying for many hours, my mom asked if I wanted to go to the mall with her since she had to get her phone fixed. I wiped my tears, threw on my Birkenstocks, and said yes. Retail therapy helped me calm down and get out of my own head for a little bit. I had the best time in Sephora looking at some of the makeup that my favorite YouTubers constantly rave about. Not gonna lie, it was kind of intimidating because everywhere I looked, I thought to myself, “oh my god, I know that brand and that product, I must get it. No, wait, that foundation is better for my skin.” I also looked at designer bags and tried on too tall high heels that squished my fat feet. The point is, I found a way to distract myself and hold onto whatever bit of happiness I had inside me.